Here are some things that Valeria and I remind ourselves often to help us in marriage. Marriage is primarily about Jesus. I hope these help you too.

1)     Don’t Keep Score! = (Marriage is not a competition. Who cares who’s winning? Why would you want to prove to your spouse that you are doing better than them at marriage?)

2)     100%/100%, not 50%/50% = (Being a good husband or wife is not and should not be dependent upon whether your spouse does his/her job. You give your 100% no matter what!)

3)     Approach all issues thinking “I am the issue!” (In every marital issue you face, look first to your own flaws and selfishness and sin. There is no room at all for pride and arrogance.)